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In 2013 in the UK, one in every 137 babies was either stillborn or died in the first 4 weeks of life

Here in N. Ireland, over 3 babies a week are stillborn or die in the first 4 weeks of life.

I do not want to give my real name but the story you are about to read is very real. My name is "June" and this is the first time I have told my story .

In 1965 at the age of twenty-five I fell pregnant with my second child. At six months I started to have a lot of pain and went to the hospital, sadly my baby, a little boy, died and we were left to "get on with our life".

My baby had died and I was not allowed to see or hold him; how could I get on with my life? I would have loved to have seen my baby. Even though he did not have all his limbs, he was still my son.

In those days they did not give you the baby to bury, so I do not have a grave to lay flowers on, nowhere to focus my grief and my memory of my son. He is forever in my heart and I will never forget him.

In 1970 we were blessed with another little boy.

I have not been able to talk about the little boy I lost all those years ago, but then I met Jacqui & Steven from Sands and they have helped me a lot. Steven asked me to write my story, and although I was not sure about it I have done it. I hope it will bring comfort to those who read it and encourage parents to contact Sands.

It has taken fortytwo years to tell my story because back then you were not supposed to talk about what had happened, but now it is different: mums and dads are able to talk openly about their baby and how they feel.

My faith in the Lord Jesus Christ has been a comfort to me and I know that one day I will see my son when I go to be with him in Heaven.

From two very grieving parents.